This is EXACTLY what's described in the book "The Millionaire Next Door" by Stanley and Danko. It has the answer to your question, although it's too complex to describe here.My husband has been self-reliant his whole life. He works hard and is a good honest man. His sister is another story. She's in her 40's and still lives with her father. She got pregnant by a guy,she knew was an alcoholic, and had the child.(She was 30 at the time, not a naive teen.) She became the victim/martyr of the family. She got put through college again, free child care, room and board, etc. Meanwhile, my husband and I work and struggle to provide for our children. She works, but all her income is for her fun.(New cars, plastic surgery, huge TVS,etc) It makes me angry that her child gets things, we can't afford to get for our children. It's not right!
Once, her and I got into a fight. I told her she needed to make a life for herself, and stop living off her elderly father. She told me that I lived off my parents, and then her brother-so it was the same!"(When our kids were little, I was a stay at home mom.) UGH!!!
Yesterday, my father-in-law told my husband, that he's leaving the $600,000 house to his sister, because she doesn't have a husband, and needs a place to live after he dies. My husband was shocked and hurt, but didn't say anything. He feels his sister mooched off her parents her entire life, while he made his own way in the world. And she gets rewarded! It's not right. I think he should tell his father how he feels. It might not change anything, but at least he'd speak his mind. What do you think?
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